Over the past few years the biggest buzz word for people in business or those seeking financial freedom is “passive income”. As the name suggests, its an idea that you can earn income that you don’t have to work for. In my experience it is also the most damaging “wealth creation” idea I’ve ever come across. It sucks the life out of people and causes them to do dreadful things that waste their time, money and energy. I view the idea as a modern da … Read More

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I’m talking about business relationships here but have just discovered for myself they can be just as painful – if not more so – than personal relationship break ups. To be let down by a business associate after you have helped them rebuild their business is far more hurtful than being let down by a lover, at least in that instance you can just walk away. There are constant reminders and as a result I have lost 2 other friends too.

The hurt I feel about the way I have been treated is agonising to say the least but once I acknowledge the way I feel it does ease. That is one of the first things that I learned in my meditation group to notice the way you feel but not to get attached to it. We can beat ourselves up that we have let someone get to us or accept that that is how we feel. Acceptance enables us to move on and learn from the experience.

I discussed this with Lisa Turner of Psychademy about this. Lisa specialises in Energy Transmutation and using your psychic powers. She reassured me that because I felt like this I was actually doing it right!

Normally when I come home from an event where I have made amazing connections I feel as though something is missing but not this time. My head feels so much clearer as if I have been meditating constantly for the last 3 days. Although there were over 80 people there I feel as if I know them all and they are going to be friends for life. I also feel like I belong totally and all the niggles I have with other people in my life no longer matter because I now belong to this amazing community.

The next one is on 18th March but places will go fast! Book here.

I was at the garage this morning filling up my car and thinking about the book I am currently reading – ‘The Slight Edge‘ by Jeff Olson. The Slight Edge according to Jeff is the difference between the 5% that are successful and the 95% that aren’t. I personally think he is being over generous there and it is actually probably less than 1%. When I was at university something one of my lecturers said has always stuck with me – ‘You are all maths graduates and statistically the highest earners in our society, why do you want to be teachers?’ I had the answer at the time, I was getting divorced and needed to be able to support my children and this gave me the school holidays off. I only stuck it for 3 years though because I could never be institutionalised.

Anyway I digress, at the petrol station this morning I remembered a time when I was at this same garage a few months ago and there were massive queues but I noticed that the pump on the far end was free. I realised that it was because, like mine, all the other cars in the queue had their filler cap on the other side. The pumps were only one deep so I drove around the back and filled up my car, paid and drove off while all the others were still waiting. It’s those little things that you do every day whether positive or negative that have a compounding effect. What do you do that sets you apart from the rest and gives you that ‘Slight Edge’?

I was draught-proofing my back door earlier and felt a few pangs of loneliness as is only natural occasionally. Then I thought that being in that relationship for nearly 20 years in total has made me a lot stronger and if I came through that alive anything else is a piece of cake. So I found a way to be grateful for the abuse that I suffered – maybe that sounds weird but it feels a whole lot better than being resentful.

Very good read but it’s a shame he used MacDonalds as a shining example of how a business should be run. Read Fast Food Nation to see how they really operate!

Following my relationship revelation last week not surprisingly I’ve been doing a lot of thinking! As I wrote in a previous post I had a chat with Susanne Jorgensen of The Singles Gym about what I wanted out of a relationship.  This afternoon I was listening to a recording of a webinar she did last week and a lot of things fell into place.

As I said at the end of my last post I am extremely grateful to Bill for putting up that photo as it reminded me what it felt like to love and be loved.  It has helped me move forward and given me more clarity about what I want out of a relationship.  Susanne talked in her webinar about getting your own life the way you want it when you are single and then you can attract someone who will fit in with that.

I was only 17 when I met Richard, the attraction was instant.  As we got to know each other we were very similar in terms of our interests and our backgrounds.  When I met my ex-husband it was definitely a case of the ‘shiny object syndrome’ as well as being on the rebound.  He had appeared to live a glamorous life with lots of travel and I wanted some of that. I was only 19 and back then it was still mainly the husband that was the breadwinner so I never thought about going after it for myself! What I also wanted was a dependable, loving husband who was there for me.  The reality was very different – he was working away or long shifts a lot which put a strain on an already difficult relationship.  He wanted a wife who was a career type and I wanted to be a stay-at-home mum and he always resented the fact that I wasn’t bringing in much money when the kids were little.  Looking back a recipe for disaster; we both wanted completely different things.  I knew a few months before our wedding that I shouldn’t marry him but I was only 22 and not really in tune with my intuition back then.  Well not that I wasn’t in tune with it I hadn’t learnt to trust it.  His career always came before me and the family, he is an engineer and very good at his job but on the autistic spectrum when it comes to inter-personal relationships!  So sad really that he didn’t know the difference between sex and affection.

I am so grateful that I can now learn from all this experience and move forward with clarity.

Wow what emotions a picture can stir up!  Yesterday a friend of mine posted a picture on facebook of me when I was 17 with some friends and my first love, Richard.  The spooky thing was I realised it was almost 30 years to the day since we met.  Life was so much simpler then, we were so in love and thought we would spend the rest of our lives together.  I cannot even say we drifted apart we were always close. We broke up after I started university but always kept in touch; got together again then he went off to University.  I went to visit him there and a couple of weeks later I found out he had been seeing someone else.  The next day I met the man who then became my husband (see previous post on domestic abuse).  Richard and I continued to write to each other (no text or e-mail in those days) until I got married and then it didn’t seem appropriate to write to him any more.  I always regretted not keeping in touch with him and now I have no idea where he is.  The last time I saw him was a few months before I got married in 1986, it was evident we still had feelings for each other but back then I felt that I had made a commitment even though I knew I didn’t love the man I was going to marry. The perils of getting married too young and parents who did not approve of us living together! I guess I’ll never know what would have happened.

I just want to say thanks to Bill for posting up the picture and reminding me what it really feels like to love someone and be loved in return.