Managing your emotions 

So December is here and it’s almost ‘that’ time of year again. The season of goodwill. And also the time of most relationship break ups. Not to be too doom and gloom about it! Work is usually stressful too whatever your job; excited children who want to do anything but schoolwork, dealing with extra orders, Christmas parties etc. So how do you take care of yourself through all of this? Without managing our emotions effectively we can easily go into reactive mode which only makes the situation worse. All well and good you say but my partner’s nagging me, my boss is putting pressure on me and the kids – well don’t even mention them!

When I started teaching I thought I had to be something I’m not. To be strict and scary so the kids would be perfectly behaved. After all we had been told in our teacher training that how we show up in the classroom would affect the kids too. All well and good and perfectly true but we weren’t given the tools to put it into practice. 

Over the years as I’ve been meditating and practising mindfulness I’ve learned strategies to help me ‘stay in the gap’ between receiving some stimulus and responding to it. Also I’ve learned to stop taking things personally. It’s never personal. That’s not to say I don’t get angry if someone cuts me up at a roundabout or feel excited when I’m going on holiday. I probably feel it even more. I know I can choose though, not to act on my feelings (mostly!). 

You’ve probably heard the expression ‘count to 10 before responding ‘ but it’s easy to forget in the heat of the moment. By having a regular mindfulness practice though we become more integrated and that practice becomes part of our daily lives. In fact we can choose to make our whole life our practice. We can notice moment by moment what is going on in our thoughts, emotions and in our physical body too. Become interested and curious and soon you will start to notice your patterns. It can be fun too. You start to take yourself less seriously and think ‘Oh that old thing again!’ 

Life is short and none of us know how long we’ve got. Live for the moment and have a wonderful festive season. 

If you are interested in coaching please comment below or send me a message via the ‘contact us’ page. 

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